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3 things mothers need to do during child custody mediation
The child custody mediation process is very stressful for mothers. This is due in part to the stress of knowing that you won’t be able to be there for your child 100 percent of the time. You will have to split time with your ex. It is imperative that you prepare for the proceedings.
You probably already know that you need to learn about the laws that impact your case. There are some other things that you should do as you prepare for the mediation and as you are going through the process. Consider these points to help you make it through the child custody mediation as easily and as a stress free as possible.
#1: Keep the focus on your children
Your children are the focus of the child custody proceedings. It is easy to fall into focusing on what is easier for you or how you can make life more difficult for your ex. Thinking of how each option impacts you or your ex is counterproductive. It puts the focus on the adults instead of the children. You know your children. You know their likes and dislikes. You know what a normal schedule looks like. All of these are considerations in the mediation process. Consider each option presented very carefully. You might find that there is an option that works for your situation that you didn’t think of. Compromise is crucial in these cases.
#2: Don’t forget about yourself
Child custody mediation is stressful. While your children are the focus of the proceedings, be sure to take care of yourself. Take time to process what is going on. Go through the grieving process. Even though nobody died, you’re still dealing with the death of your marriage. You are dealing with knowing your children won’t have both parents in the same home. It is imperative that you work through all of these feelings so that you can be the mother your children need. If possible, plan to have some time alone before and after the proceedings, even if it isn’t immediately before or after.
#3: Mediation isn’t your only option
Child custody mediation doesn’t always work. You still have the option of taking your case to trial. While many parents prefer mediation, it isn’t always possible to come to an agreement about all the necessary points. Getting your case prepared for litigation when child custody mediation fails is imperative. You need to learn about what points the judge will consider. You can address those points when you present your side of the case.