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Co-parenting is challenging, develop a solid plan for obstacles
When you are divorced from your child’s other parent, there aren’t any parenting methods that are easy 100 percent of the time. One of the options that you might come across when you are exploring the options you have is co-parenting.
Co-parenting is an arrangement in which you and your ex both actively parent your children together even though you aren’t in a relationship. This parenting style can continue even if you, your ex or both get remarried.
Challenges of co-parenting
There are many challenges that this type of parenting arrangement has. One of the most pronounced is that you and your ex will have to get along with each other. More than likely, your relationship ended because you didn’t agree on everything and needed to call it quits.
Some other challenges of co-parenting include trying to deal with the extended family during special events and trying to come to agreements about how you will raise your child. Even though all of these are difficult to deal with, there are some methods you can use to make the situation a bit easier.
Co-parenting strategies to help you
The most important thing to remember in these cases is that your child’s happiness and stability has to be the focal point. When you and your ex are attending events together with your child, don’t use these times to cover disagreements or contentious issues. Instead, keep your attention on your child and build memories with your child.
Another thing to remember is that your child doesn’t need to know everything. It is easy to hash things out when your child is near or to use your child as a messenger, but these can actually do more harm than good. You and your ex should set up times to discuss things when your child isn’t near. This might be via a messaging app or over the phone after your child goes to bed.
You should also remember that there is a good chance that you and your ex will disagree on some points during the co-parenting relationship. As long as the issue isn’t a major one, such as where the child will attend school, it might be best to agree to disagree.
Even if you have a co-parenting relationship with your ex, it is still a good idea to have a solid child custody agreement that you can refer to if there are ever any questions about what needs to be done. This can be done through mediation, which can set a positive tone for the relationship.