How to decide if nesting is a good option after divorce

When you go through the divorce process, although a change of pace might be everything you need to move on with your life, it can also be an overwhelming time.  From breaking up with your ex, adjusting to a custody schedule and moving out of the family home — you probably have a lot on your plate.

As you piece together the jumbled puzzle your life may become after divorce, it could be useful to keep at least one part intact. For many parents who divorce, a nesting arrangement is a useful stepping stone. Through nesting, children get to live in the family home while parents stay in the family home whenever it’s their parenting time. This means the way children traditionally live out of two homes after divorce is something parents do instead.

This could be beneficial for your family if you need some time before moving to a new permanent home. The home buying and selling process takes planning and effort. Taking on this large task amidst a divorce can be a recipe for stress. Plus, as an added benefit, your children get to stay in a familiar space. And when children are able maintain similar pre-divorce routines, they may have a greater sense of security.

It’s also essential to be realistic about some reasons nesting might not be ideal, including:

  • Lots of interaction with your ex-spouse
  • Delaying decisions that you’ll eventually make
  • Inviting new partners into a home you share with your ex
  • Paying to maintain one and half households

Even with all the logistics that go into making a nesting work, it could still be a good short-term arrangement. Maybe finding a friend or family member you can live with instead of investing in a place to stay when it isn’t your week with the children can help you decide if nesting is doable.

Considering the pros and cons of a variety of living arrangements is important because whatever you choose will impact your whole family.