Tending to your emotional needs in divorce is not just a luxury

If you’re about to go through a divorce, you probably feel like a wreck – and that’s perfectly understandable. Divorce and other family law matters are very difficult experiences. That’s why, as important as it is to find good legal help, you shouldn’t just stop there. Addressing your emotional and spiritual needs in divorce isn’t a luxury or a sign of weakness. It is necessary for its own sake, and it will likely have an impact on the rest of the process/outcome.

Find the right professional to meet the need

Of all the legal processes a person is likely to go through, divorce is unique for several reasons. Chief among them is the lack of social and emotional support outside the courtroom. Most people who face a criminal trial or personal injury lawsuit are able to lean on family members, a spouse or other loved ones to help cope with stress and fear. But because divorce directly impacts those family relationships, it often leaves people feeling like they have no support system.

You will need a lawyer to handle the legal aspects of your divorce. You may hire additional professionals for the practical aspects of your divorce, such as financial planners and real estate agents (to help sell your marital residence). But you cannot forget about tending to your emotional needs. That’s where a therapist or divorce coach comes in.

What is divorce coaching?

According to a recent article in Psychology Today, a divorce coach is a mental health professional who is specifically experienced in and focused on helping you through a divorce (and the related processes that come with it, like child custody). They are not therapists, but they work they do is often therapeutic and practically helpful.

Whether you seek out a divorce coach or a traditional therapist is up to you, but hiring the services of a mental health professional is a wise investment.

Addressing your emotional needs can make the legal process faster and cheaper

At the end of the day, divorce is a series of negotiations with obvious financial ramifications. When negotiating, you need to be thinking clearly and rationally about your future. But if your judgment is clouded by anger or grief, it is very difficult to make wise decisions. Instead, you may find yourself acting in ways just to spite your spouse or fighting over property that would simply be easier and cheaper to replace.

If you have outside emotional support, you put yourself in a much better position to handle the legal and practical aspects of divorce. That makes the entire process easier, cheaper and less stressful – and it usually results in better outcomes.