Colorado requires divorcing parents to submit a parenting plan for approval. The plan must allow both parents to spend adequate time with their children. Nesting is one option that you have for co-parenting. Your children would continue living at the family home while each parent takes turns living in the home with them. Most parents like to save money by renting an apartment together since they would never be there at the same time.
What’s the relationship like with your former spouse?
Although you wouldn’t be at either home at the same time, you should still be cautious of sharing an apartment in certain circumstances. If your former spouse was abusive, you are at risk of them breaking the rules to continue harming you.
You should also consider their history of honoring their agreements. If they are likely to break the rules, then you may want to get your own apartment. Nesting is still an option when you live in separate homes as long as both of you can handle it financially.
To help maintain the peace if you choose to co-rent an apartment, get a written and signed agreement on the rules of sharing the space. You might not feel comfortable with romantic partners over, for instance.
Less stressful and painful for the kids
One of the benefits of nesting is it’s less stressful and painful for the kids. Nesting helps ease them into the transition of their parents divorcing because they get to continue living at a familiar place. It can offer some comfort even though things won’t be the same again with each parent alternating. Letting them live at the same home makes it easier for them to maintain friendships in the area and their favorite hangout spots as well.
Child custody concerns
Judges will still make child custody decisions when you draft a nesting plan with your former spouse. Colorado uses the term parental responsibilities of child custody but it’s the same thing. In most situations, judges favor joint parental responsibility. If one of the parents was abusive, then the judge might not want to give joint parental responsibility. They may opt for listing out visitation rights instead.
Most children love nesting because they often don’t want to leave the family home or have to travel back and forth between residences. However, the parents should be good at sticking to agreements in order for this to work out.